One of the things we came away with was the Flag Page to help us understand each others' personalities. Bill and I have done lots of these kinds of tests, but I've never seen one for kids. We went ahead and picked up this "Flag Page" for kids kit. It was quite an investment, honestly, but when we divided the price by four (for Eeny, Meeny, Miny, an Mo), we decided it was worth it. It is intended for kids age 3-12. It is recommended that kids 13 and over use the online test adults do. However, since Aspies understand pictures better than emotional definitions, we decided this would work fine for all of our kiddos.
Basically, it is a special one on one time with your kid, in a box. The kit is designed for the parents to do with one child at a time. It suggests that you do it with only one parent, so the child will be less intimidated. We decided that we would spend time with Miny together and Mo together. But we agreed that Eeny and Meeny would do best with one parent.
The kit includes a big "game board", special poster to make with each child, a bunch of stickers, score cards, and a deck of cards with different character traits and interests on them. Through a process of elimination, the child decides which characteristics and interests best describe them. Through a color coded process, you as the parent, begin to figure out if they are your child is best motivated by fun, peace, control, or perfection. We're still waiting on our special time with a couple of our kiddos, but the time we had with the others proved quite effective. I was really surprised how well the boys assessed themselves. They really understand who they are. The point here is to affirm their uniqueness and all the positive things about them. There are no "negative" characteristics in this kit.
Meeny decided that the attribute that best described him was "I'm one of a kind." There couldn't be a more accurate description. We really saw the "war in his soul" as his strongest characteristics showed almost equal motivations of fun and control, with perfection being at the top. It has really helped us understand what makes him tick and how to help him be at peace with his own various personality splits (combined with puberty).
Mo decided that the attribute that best described him was "I know how others feel." He is our guy that likes fun and peace. He doesn't want to fight, and he likes everybody.
One of the special parts of this is being able to show the brothers the differences between themselves and why we don't treat them all the same. We want them to see that it hurts to be made fun of when you are different, if you truly pride yourself on your uniqueness....and that a fight with a brother is more devastating to the kids that doesn't want to fight with anyone.
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